Why did my ex move on so quickly?

or if they moved on quickly because they were secretly starting up with their current person before you broke up;

and so on.

or if they moved on fast because they can control their emotions like a simple light bulb;

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

Different tack: I don’t think you asked what you want to know, you asked what you’ve heard other people ask.

What I suspect you really want to know, is one or more specific questions.

Such as, if your ex moved on fast because they never actually loved you;

Why am I always so tired and I don't eat enough?

Of the ones I was able to talk to about it all rationally later, some of them admitted they “used” a new “hook up” the same way some people use drugs, to dull the upset over our breakup; some said (perhaps as revenge) that I was easy to replace; some said they just got lucky. Most didn’t stay with the quick replacement, but a few even “panic married” the replacement, as part of being upset about the breakup.

I know from my own “misadventures” in love, that my ex’s were able to move on quickly because they were more attractive than I am, and far less shy, and sometimes because they were far less picky than I am.

Why did my ex move on so quickly?

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